Have You Ever?
This an active, fun way to explore and celebrate the rich diversity of
experiences that different people bring to any group. Works best
with larger groups.
The instructor explains that he/she will call out different things that
may or may not apply to each person. If the item does apply to
you, then run into the middle, jump in the air, and do a high 5 with
anyone else who runs in.
A list of about 20 items should be tailored to the particular group,
setting, and program goals, but some suggestions are below.
Usually the items are of a "Have You Ever....?" form, but also free to
ad lib, e.g., "Does Anyone Have....?"
Items should be carefully considered in order to prevent embarrassment,
The motivation of participants to participate often needs some amping
up. Try to do some other warm-ups first. The rest is down to
the leader's skill in demonstrating and encouraging.
List of Possible "Have Your Ever?" Items:
- Have you ever climbed to the highest point in your country of birth?
- Have you ever lived overseas for more than 1 year?
- Have you ever sung karaoke?
- Have you ever been without a shower for more than 2 weeks?
- Do you have both a brother and a sister?
- Have you ever ridden a horse?
- Have you ever eaten frogs' legs?
- Can you speak 3 or more languages?
- Have you ever been in love with someone who was vegetarian?
- Have you swum in 3 or more different oceans?
- Have you ever flown an aeroplane?
- Have you broken 3 or more bones in your body?
- Have you done volunteer work sometime in the last month?
- Have you ever free-climbed a tree or rockface more than 10 meters
- Have you ever had a close relative who lived to over 100?
- Have you ever cooked a meal by yourself for more than 20 people?
- Have you ever kept a budgerigar as a pet?
- Have you ever been parachuting or done a bungee jump?
- Can you not click your fingers on your non-dominant hand?
- Have you ever seen a polar bear?
(adapted from Dave Hall
- Participants can generate their own questions. Here's one way.
People are sitting in a circle. Everyone has a chair (or rope ring or
hula hoop) except the person who is IT, standing in the center.
- The person in the middle asks a "Have You Ever" question that is true
for him/her self e.g., "have you ever climbed a mountain over 10,000
- Anyone whose answer is "yes" gets up and moves to an empty seat. So, if
four people get up they try to exchange seats as quickly as possible.
The person who asked the question tries to quickly gain a seat, leaving
one other person without a seat and they become the new IT.
- In choosing a question, participants can try for questions which reveal
something e.g., “have you ever trekked the Great Wall of China?” or ask
simple questions like “have you ever fallen off of a bicycle?” for which
everyone would get up.
- Pileup variation: Anyone can ask a question and if you can answer yes to
the question you move one space to your right and sit in that chair. If
you cannot answer yes to the question, you stay seated in the chair
where you are. This means somebody may be coming to sit on your lap from
the seat to your left. Sometimes you get three and four people sitting
in sort of a lap-style game on top of you. Then, when they ask the next
question to go one space to the right by answering yes, they peel off
one at a time sit down and you end up on top. It creates some very
interesting combinations. Physical touching reveals something about
people and it breaks the ice so that people can then begin to feel more
comfortable talking about and doing other novel things.
None. Can be done indoor or outdoor.
Active, fun group activity to explore and celebrate the rich diversity of
people's past experiences. Works well with large groups.
Popular activity with many variations. "Have You Ever" is often
credited to Karl Rohnke.
- Rohnke & Butler,
- Rohnke & Butler,
- Rohnke & Butler,
- Note related activities often
contain good ideas for possible "Have Your Ever?" questions and other
methods for exploring, celebrating and understanding individual
differences and group diversity
- If you looked back over your life, would you wish you had dared, risked
and done a little more? Here's two famous poems along these lines:
I Had My Life to Live Over by Erma Bombeck
- If I Had My
Life Over by Nadine Stair
Activity: Write Your Own Eulogy
(James Neill, 2004)